Advice To Women Who Spend Most Of Their Time In The Kitchen

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Many women spend most of their time in the kitchen, busy preparing various kinds of food, which takes a lot of time. Can you offer any advice to the Muslim woman concerning that?

Praise be to Allaah.

The believer should be keen to make the best use of his time and not to waste it. Many women, as mentioned in the question, spend hours and hours in preparing various kinds of food.

The believer should reduce his food intake and his main concern should not be to enjoy whatever he desires of food and other things, even if it is permissible. 'Umar ibn al-Khattaab entered upon his son 'Abd-Allaah and found him eating meat, and said, "What is this meat?" He said: "I fancied it." 'Umar said: "Every time you fancy something, you eat it?! It is enough extravagance for a man that he eats whatever he fancies!" May Allaah be pleased with them. The Muslim should limit himself to what he needs of food, and not go beyond that.

Moreover, the time that a Muslim woman spends in preparing food could be used in remembering Allaah or reciting Quraan whilst she works. it should also be noted that if her intention when preparing food is sound, namely to serve her husband and children, then that is an act of worship for which she will be rewarded.

Shaykh Abd al-Azeez Aal al-Shaykh said:

Her work in her house is an act of worship to Allaah, and her doing her household duties and taking care of her children are an act of worship to Allaah, so she is in a state of worship, in sha Allaah. So she should make the most of the time in order to remember Allaah; it is permissible to remember Allaah whilst preparing food, praise be to Allaah.

Majallat al-Buhooth, 58/81

She feels anxious what should she do?
I have some few question. first i don't know now a day i feel worried for something that i don't know. i tryed to forget it but i wouldn't worked. i really need your helped as a muslim girl (married) what should i do forget it this thing.

Praise be to Allaah.

The best remedy for anxiety is remembrance of Allaah (dhikr), and regularly praying on time, and avoiding too much free time.

Allaah says concerning dhikr (interpretation of the meaning):

"Those who believed (in the Oneness of Allaah Islamic Monotheism), and whose hearts find rest in the remembrance of Allaah verily, in the remembrance of Allaah do hearts find rest"

[al-Ra'd 13:28]

and He says (interpretation of the meaning):

"And We send down of the Qur'aan that which is a healing and a mercy to those who believe (in Islamic Monotheism and act on it)"

[al-Isra' 17:82]

"O mankind! There has come to you a good advice from your Lord (i.e. the Qur'aan, enjoining all that is good and forbidding all that is evil), and a healing for that which is in your breasts, a guidance and a mercy (explaining lawful and unlawful things) for the believers"

[Yoonus 10:57]

And He said concerning prayer (interpretation of the meaning):

"Verily, man (disbeliever) was created very impatient;

Irritable (discontented) when evil touches him;

And niggardly when good touches him.

Except those who are devoted to Salaah (prayers).

Those who remain constant in their Salaah (prayers)"

[al-Ma'aarij 70:19-23]

"O you who believe! Seek help in patience and As-Salaah (the prayer). Truly, Allaah is with As-Saabiroon (the patient)"

[al-Baqarah 2:153]

When something distressed the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) he would turn to prayer (Narrated by Ahmad and Abu Dawood, 1319; classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami' no. 4703).

And he used to say: "O Bilaal, give the call to prayer (iqaamah) and let us find rest in it." Narrated by Ahmad, and Abu Dawood; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami', no. 7892.

Prayer brings comfort to the heart and is a delight, and is a remedy for worry and grief.

Free time leaves the door open to bad thoughts and the distress, worry and anxiety that result from them.

Whenever you feel anxious and worried, hasten to do wudoo' and pray, and read Qur'aan, and keep yourself busy with beneficial actions, especially the dhikrs for morning and evening, and when going to sleep, eating, drinking, and entering and leaving the home.

The Muslim who believes in the will and decree of Allaah should not worry about his provision or children or the future in general, because that was written before he came into existence. Rather he should worry about his sins and shortcomings before his Lord, the way of dealing with which is to repent and hasten to do good deeds. Allaah has guaranteed the believers a good life, as He says (interpretation of the meaning):

"Whoever works righteousness whether male or female while he (or she) is a true believer (of Islamic Monotheism) verily, to him We will give a good life (in this world with respect, contentment and lawful provision), and We shall pay them certainly a reward in proportion to the best of what they used to do (i.e. Paradise in the Hereafter)"

[al-Nahl 16:97].

For more information see question no 22704 and 21677.

And Allaah knows best.



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