Her
Boyfriend Has Become A Muslim And Is Making Her Choose
Between Islam And Splitting Up
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I'm a christian woman and my boyfriend has converted
and is a muslim now. We've been through so much and
made a lot of promises that we always stay together
even if I do not become a muslim. I am learning more
about Islam. But with my job and my own believes I
would never wear a veil. I always wear long sleeves
and dress business. So if I would become a muslim am I
not allowed to wear business clothes?
I'm not scared what others think I just don't believe
in it. Last week my boyfriend told me he would never
choose no one over me regardless of what religion I am
and yesterday he told me I have to chose either I
become a muslim or we break up because he said the
e-man said he should be with a muslim woman. All I
need is some time to decide what is best for me and I
am learning more about the Koran. He basically put me
on the spot and is forcing me to chose.
Praise be to Allaah.
Allaah makes it easy for the one for whom He wills
happiness to find it. Perhaps Allaah wills that for
you by means of this person who is calling you to
Islam and by means of your getting in touch with us so
that you may be guided to what is best for you in this
life and in the Hereafter.
Islam does not allow any illicit relationship between
a man and a woman. Allaah has established marriage as
the legitimate means for satisfying sexual desire, and
through marriage a man and woman form a family based
on the laws of Allaah, and their children are
legitimate.
We will not tell you that hijab (the veil) is not
obligatory, and we will not tell you that Islam
excuses you from wearing it. Rather we will tell you
that you should not let the idea of wearing hijab form
an obstacle to your entering Islam. You have to start
by saving yourself from your current situation and
enter into that which Allaah loves and is pleased
with, which is to believe in Him alone (Tawheed) and
to bear witness that Muhammad (peace and blessings of
Allaah be upon him) is His Messenger. After you enter
Islam and faith becomes established in your heart, you
will have the opportunity to study and find out for
yourself everything that Allaah likes, so that you can
do it, and everything that He hates so you can give it
up and avoid it.
We advise you sincerely from the bottom of our hearts
to choose that which is best for you, not so that you
can marry a Muslim man, but for your own sake, and for
your own happiness and salvation from the punishment
and wrath of Allaah. What you are going to choose is
nothing other than the religion of the Prophets of
old. It is the religion of Adam, Noah, Abraham, Moses
and Jesus. All the Prophets bore witness that God is
One, and they denied that He has any partner, wife or
son.
Allaah accepted the Covenant from all the Prophets
that they would believe in our Prophet Muhammad (peace
and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and that they
would support him if he was sent during their
lifetimes, and He commanded them to tell their nations
to do likewise. Allaah made the message of Muhammad
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) a message
to all mankind until the Hour begins [i.e., until the
Day of Judgement comes], whereas the Prophets before
him were each sent only to their own people.
So do not hesitate. Hasten before your time is up and
death comes. Choose the path that leads to happiness
in this world and in the Hereafter. May Allaah make
you a Muslim woman and a righteous wife who will
establish a home and family based on Tawheed (belief
in the Oneness of Allaah) and obedience. We ask Allaah
to guide you and support you.
Please also see the answer to question no. 3023.
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