Islamic Rulings -
Living Shariah Verdicts
I am
in a very emotionally difficult situation at the
moment and cannot contemplate anything but my death. I
cannot think of anything about my future or anything
except death but even then I do not want to die now in
the hope that Almighty and all merciful Allah grants
me mercy for the sin I have committed. The problem is
that over the past few months I have grown close to a
female. I had no intention to form a sinful
relationship at all. The reason I got close to her was
to talk her out of the idea of her killing herself.
You see she has been suicidal and keeps taking
overdose, I tried to talk to her and teach her so she
would not do this sin and save her from hellfire. But
what happened is slowly things went wrong and a wrong
relationship formed... we never had sex and I never
had any intention to have sex. She is married. But the
problem that has happened is that she claims that on
occasion I entered her. I do not believe this because
I did not take my clothes off but she was partially
nude. I am in fear that even if I didn't enter her, I
may have done a sin. But if I did, then I fear I am
doomed. I do not believe her because I have found that
she does not have good intentions and she may have
tried the excuse if being suicidal just to get close
to me... I am very disturbed now and cannot sleep or
do anything. I regret what has happened and pray to
Allah for forgiveness. All I wanted to do was to save
someone from hell and now I may have destroyed my own
self.
Praise be
to Allaah.
You have
to repent to Allaah from your friendship with this
woman, for this sin that you have fallen into came
about as a result of your taking lightly the matter of
this relationship and of being alone with women. This
is an act of disobedience towards Allaah which is
deserving of His punishment and torment. Concerning
the seriousness of this matter, please see Questions #
1114 and 9465.
Secondly:
Make a final end to your relationship with this woman
and with any other women with whom you have a
relationship, because most of these relationships end
up in committing zinaa which is haraam, or some
other kinds of physical relationship which are
haraam – we seek refuge with Allaah – even if at
the beginning it was, as you say, a chaste
relationship. For the Shaytaan flows through the son
of Adam like his blood. Know that being alone with a
non-mahram woman can never be described as a
chaste relationship.
Now you
must hasten to repent to Allaah sincerely, by
regretting what has happened in the past, giving up
this relationship and sincerely resolving never to
have any haraam relationship again. This evil
woman is trying to make you imagine and to convince
you that you committed an immoral action with her so
that she may use that as a means to make you commit
immoral actions with her again. Even if what she
claims were true, that you committed a haraam
action with her, do not let the Shaytaan make the most
of this opportunity or make you despair of the mercy
of Allaah, so that he can mislead you further by
making you feel that doing this again and persisting
in it is not a serious matter, or make you think that
repentance is too difficult. The Shaytaan is eager to
make you feel this way, but the mercy of Allaah is
vast, so hasten to repent. Allaah says (interpretation
of the meaning),
"Say: ‘O ‘Ibaadi (My slaves) who have
transgressed against themselves (by committing evil
deeds and sins)! Despair not of the Mercy of Allaah:
verily, Allaah forgives all sins. Truly, He is
Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.'"
(Az-Zumar: 53)
Allaah
forgives the sins of those who sincerely repent.
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
And those who invoke not
any other ilaah (god) along with Allaah, nor
kill such person as Allaah has forbidden, except for
just cause, nor commit illegal sexual intercourse
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and whoever does this shall receive the punishment.
The torment will be doubled to him on the Day of
Resurrection, and he will abide therein in disgrace;
Except those who repent and believe (in Islamic
Monotheism), and do righteous deeds; for those, Allaah
will change their sins into good deeds, and Allaah is
Oft Forgiving, Most Merciful.
[Al-Furqaan: 68-70]
It was
narrated from Abdullah ibn Mas'oud that a man kissed a
woman. He came to the Prophet (peace and blessings of
Allaah be upon him) and told him about that. Then the
aayah was revealed (interpretation of the
meaning), "And
perform As-Salaah (Iqaamat-as-Salaah),
at the two ends of the day and in some hours of the
night [i.e. the five compulsory Salaah
(prayers)]. Verily, the good deeds remove the evil
deeds (i.e. small sins). That is a reminder (an
advice) for the mindful (those who accept advice)."
[Hood: 114]
The man
said, "Is this
for me, O Messenger of Allaah?"
He said, "It is
for all those of my followers who encounter a similar
situation." According
to another report:
"A man did something
with a woman that was less than intercourse."
(Narrated by Muslim, At-Tawbah, 4964)
Do a lot
of righteous deeds, prayers and seeking forgiveness.
Look for good, religiously-committed friends who will
offer you an alternative to these haraam
relationships. Know that the gate of repentance is
open until the sun rises from the west, and that
Allaah accepts the repentance of His slave until the
death rattle sounds in the throat.
Finally,
you must hasten to take the means prescribed in
sharee'ah to protect yourself – by Allaah's leave –
i.e. marriage, which will keep you from falling into
haraam.
May Allaah help you and us to do that which He loves
and which pleases Him! May Allaah bless our Prophet
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