Islamic Rulings -
Living Shariah Verdicts
Islamic Questions & Answers
How soon
do a married couple have to consumate their marriage
in Islam?
If one of the partners feels uncomfortable, what is
he/she to do, if he/she does not want to consumate
right away, but would prefer to wait about 3 months?
al-hamdu lillaah.
If a man executes a valid marriage contract with a
woman then it is permissible for the two to do as they
please between themselves, even with only the
contract. There is no period prescribed by Islamic
shari'ah between the contract and consummation of the
marriage, so this issue is up to the two partners as
to what they decide is most appropriate and in their
best interests.
It is incumbent upon both parties to consider,
respect, and ensure the other one's personal comfort
and ease. Thus, if the husband sees that the wife
needs some time to become acclimated and develop their
relationship and level of intimacy before
consummation, such as 3 months, for example, he should
do so, and vice versa. Likewise, it is incumbent upon
the wife if she sees that her husband feels an urgent
need to guard his chastity by consummating the
marriage that she should not prolong the period so
that he does not fall into a state of awkward
discomfort and difficulty, and vice versa.
Appearing
Before One's Fiancé Before The Wedding (Nikaah)
I am
engaged to man who i attend to marry in acouple months
inshallah. whenever my fiance comes to my house for
dinner my parents tell me not to wear my jilbab in
front of him, and ot wear normal loose fitting clohtes,
because there is nothing wrong with him seeing me
without my jilbab because there is intention for
marriage. I would like to know, if this is allowed, or
am i not suppose to take my jilbab off?
Praise be to Allaah.
So long as the nikaah (marriage contract) has not yet
taken place, this man is still a "stranger" to you,
and you should observe hijaab with him (i.e., wear
proper hijaab and avoid contact) just as you would in
the case of any other man. He has no right to look at
you beyond the look that is allowed by sharee'ah at
the time of making a marriage proposal, beyond which
no further look is permitted until the nikaah is
completed. What you father has told you about it being
OK for you to relax the rules of hijaab in front of
your fiancé is not correct, and there should be no
obedience to any created being if it involves
disobedience to the Creator. The mere intention of
marriage does not justify uncovering in front of him.
And Allaah knows best.
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