Rights And Duties Of The Mother's Husband And The Stepdaughter
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What are a daughter's rights over her mother's husband, and what are her duties?
What are the man's rights and duties regarding his stepdaughter?
Praise be to Allah
The stepdaughter is the daughter of a wife from someone other than her current
husband; she is permanently forbidden in marriage to the man if he has
consummated his marriage with her mother. This means that she has become one of
his mahrams.
It says in Fataawa al-Lajnah ad-Daa'imah (17/367):
If a man marries a woman and consummates the marriage with her, it becomes
permanently forbidden for him to marry one of her daughters or one of the
daughters of her sons, no matter how far the line of descent extents, whether
she is a daughter from a previous or subsequent husband, because Allah, may He
be glorified and exalted) says (interpretation of the meaning):
"Prohibited to you [for marriage] are your mothers… and your step-daughters
under your guardianship [born] of your wives unto whom you have gone in"
[an-Nisaa' 4:23].
The stepdaughter here is the wife's daughter. A man is regarded as a mahram of
the daughters of a woman whom he marries and with whom he consummates the
marriage; it becomes permissible for them not to observe hijab in front of him.
End quote.
This issue has been discussed previously in the answers to questions no. 20750
and 33711.
With regard to the rights and duties of a stepdaughter and her mother's husband
towards one another, they may be summed up as upholding ties, respecting one
another, and treating one another kindly. All Muslims are enjoined to treat
their fellow Muslims with kindness, so how about those who become mahrams due to
ties through marriage. Undoubtedly they have a greater right to kindness and
care than Muslims in general.
But spending on maintenance, serving and obeying are not obligatory between
them. The stepdaughter does not come under the same ruling as her mother in
these matters in terms of it being obligatory according to Islamic teachings. If
the husband spends on his stepdaughter out of kindness, and she responds by
treating him well, taking care of his house and serving him, then that is good,
because bringing people together and creating harmony between them is an aim
that Islam seeks to achieve.
The husband should understand that kind treatment of his wife includes kind
treatment of her daughter. And the daughter should understand that part of
honouring her mother is honouring the mother's husband and treating him kindly.
Shaykh Ibn Baaz (may Allah have mercy on him) said: (25/365):
There is the hope for the one who takes care of women other than his daughters,
such as his sisters, paternal aunts, maternal aunts, and others who are in need,
treating them with kindness, and providing them with food, drink and clothing,
will attain a reward like that mentioned by the Prophet (blessings and peace of
Allah be upon him) with regard to the one who takes care of three daughters, for
the grace and mercy of Allah are immense. The same applies to one who takes care
of one or two daughters or others, and treats them kindly; there is the hope
that he will attain a great reward, as is indicated by the general meaning of
the verses and hadiths that speak of kindness towards the poor and needy,
relatives and others. If this is the virtue of showing kindness towards
daughters, then showing kindness towards parents, or one of them, or
grandfathers or grandmothers ,will bring an even greater reward, because of the
great significance of parents' rights, and the obligation to honour them and
treat them kindly. It makes no difference whether the one who is showing
kindness is a father or a mother or anyone else, because the reward is connected
to the deed. And Allah is the source of strength. End quote.
The Standing Committee for Issuing Fatwas was asked (25/296):
How should the social family ties be in the Muslim household?
They replied:
Allah has enjoined upholding that which will strengthen ties between family
members. He enjoins upholding ties of kinship, and treating relatives kindly, as
He, may He be glorified, says (interpretation of the meaning):
"And fear Allah, through whom you ask one another, and the wombs. Indeed Allah
is ever, over you, an Observer"
[an-Nisaa' 4:1]
"Worship Allah and associate nothing with Him, and to parents do good, and to
relatives…"
[an-Nisaa' 4:36]
"Say, Come, I will recite what your Lord has prohibited to you. [He commands]
that you not associate anything with Him, and to parents, good treatment, and do
not kill your children out of poverty; We will provide for you and them"
[al-An'aam 6:151]
"And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good
treatment"
[al-Israa' 17:23].
And there are other similar verses in the Qur'an.
It is proven that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said:
"No one who severs ties of kinship will enter Paradise." Narrated by al-Bukhaari
and Muslim.
And he said: "Whoever would like to his provision to be increased and his life
to be extended, let him uphold ties of kinship." Narrated by at-Tirmidhi. And he
said: " Allah has forbidden to you disobedience towards mothers and burying
daughters alive…" Narrated by al-Bukhaari and Muslim. And there are many other
hadiths which encourage upholding of ties of kinship, adhering to Islamic
etiquette and noble characteristics, and maintaining kind treatment, all of
which strengthen the bonds between families and family members, and bring all
Muslims together. This is the right way, not drifting away from the path of
Islam and ignoring Islamic etiquette and the call for good manners. End quote.
And Allah knows best.
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