The Garden Of Good Manners

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Nabil ibn 'Abdul-Magid An-Nashamy

Allah (Blessed and Exalted be He) says: "Those who spend (in Allâh's Cause) in prosperity and in adversity, who repress anger, and who pardon men; verily, Allâh loves Al-Muhsinűn (the good-doers)." [Surat Al 'Imran: 134].

Allah (Blessed and Exalted be He) says: "The good deed and the evil deed cannot be equal. Repel (the evil) with one which is better (i.e. Allâh orders the faithful believers to be patient at the time of anger, and to excuse those who treat them badly) then verily he, between whom and you there was enmity, (will become) as though he was a close friend. * But none is granted it (the above quality) except those who are patient - and none is granted it except the owner of the great portion (of happiness in the Hereafter i.e. Paradise and of a high moral character) in this world." [Surat Fussilat: 34 35].

Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated that the Prophet (peace be upon him) said: "Whoever does not give up forged speech and evil actions, Allah is not in need of his (fasting) leaving his food and drink." [Reported by Al Bukhari] [1]

Abu Ad-Darda' (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated that the Prophet (peace be upon him) said: "Nothing will be heavier on the Day of Resurrection in the Scale of the believer than good manners. Allah hates one who utters foul or coarse language." [Reported by At-Tirmidhy who said: A good and authentic Hadith]. [2]

Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated: "The Prophet (peace be upon him) was asked about what will predominantly cause people to enter Paradise. He said: Fearing Allah and good manners. He was asked about what will predominantly cause people to enter Hell-Fire. He said: The tongue and the genitals." [Reported by At-Tirmidhy who said: A good and authentic Hadith].

The person who observes fasting has a ripe, fruitful, and sweet garden which he enjoys where he is surrounded by good smell, good taste, and good color; it is the garden of good manners in which the fasting person lives.

The garden of good manners starts with "When someone insults him" and its end is "I am a fasting person." So, a fasting person shows good manners that amaze the lewd because the good words and the noble actions of the fasting people prevent them from talking.

The adornment of the fasting person is: Patience, forbearance, forgiving, generosity, benevolence, goodness, piety, clarity, transparency, soundness of the heart, sweetness of the tongue, hastening to good deeds, and cooperation for goodness and piety, among other good manners which a fasting person seeks to reach the highest degrees.

The garden of good manners is not new for believers because its origins exist inside him and in Ramadan they show up and flourish more and more until they reach a high degree of beauty and perfection.

In response to the set of good manners of a fasting person, the society enjoys love and intimacy, and the spirit of solidarity and cooperation prevail, whereas disputes and rivalries disappear from people except those who gave up themselves to Satan whether they are fasting or not.

So, it is easy to expose the defects of those who refuse to enter the garden of good manners and observe patience for bad manners, as a result all the people will feel the bad smell of his bad manners, the ugliness of his tongue, and the dirtiness of his behavior because he did not benefit from the good manners of Ramadan, so he is bad even in Ramadan.

To him time and place do not differ and he does not care for the month or the rights of his Muslim brothers because ugliness is an inherent quality in him. Or you may say: He gave himself up to Satan, so anyone who deals with him should beware.

If the fool only knew the pleasure of the reasonable when dealing with good manners.

If they only knew the pleasure of defeating their desires and whims, moreover their enemy, i.e., Satan, while they are facing the bad deeds with good ones and facing the fool with good words. If they knew that or felt it, they would seek it day and night and by any means, but whoever ignores something, he sets rivalry against it; so glory be to the one who guides and misleads whomever He wants.

The garden of good manners is an adornment by which the fasting people adorn themselves everywhere with their wives and kids to the extent that they wish that the entire year be like Ramadan. By good manners, selling and purchasing, taking and giving, sayings and actions, dealings and transactions become easy after they had been difficult. By good manners distances are cut, rivalry ends, and disputes which need many discussions and debates stop because by good manners the impossible becomes possible as shown by many examples.

Good manners are a crown on the head of the fasting and a brightness in his face, so whenever he rises a degree, the crows will be more beautiful and the face will be brighter, and for every diligent there is a share.

The fasting person protects his fasting by safeguarding his tongue from indulging into ideal talks as he protected his belly from unlawful food and his genitals from illegal sexual intercourse. The matter of tongue is very serious because it is the cause for the nullification of fasting, leaving a person hungry and thirsty without gaining the reward of fasting. So, the keen person ties his tongue so as not to nullify his fasting. Let it be known that the matter in Ramadan is severer and the need to self-control is confirmed, so let a person observe patience for controlling himself in Ramadan to gain the fruit of the month, otherwise he shall weep for himself if he releases his tongue despite his hunger and thirst. At that point, the fasting people differ, their vigor differs, the reality of men shows up, and their degrees differ.

O Allah, guide us to the best of sayings, actions, and manners, for none can guide to them but You, and ward bad manners off, for none can ward them off but You.

[1]Sahih Al Bukhari (1770).
[2]Sahih At-Targhib wat-Tarhib (2641).

 

EsinIslam Ramadan Team

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